How To Get Me To Block You For Dummies
25 Boundaires
I wasn't much of a blocker back in the day.
I saved that button for the true crazies.
The outcome?
It trashed my social media vibe.
I began to loathe the whole scene. I got bitter. Hating on social media wasn't just a mood killer; it hit my wallet too, since I was pulling in leads through content. And let's not even start on the peace of mind debacle.
Then came my epiphany, thanks to Mike Cernovich's block-first-ask-questions-never strategy.
Having haters is one thing; letting them and “reply guys” camp out on your digital lawn is another story.
Sure, haters and unpleasant people can be free PR. And yes, the whole "no haters, no point" spiel rings true. But wisdom has taught me not to wrestle with idiots—passersby might not spot the difference.
And I'm all for not entertaining fools, or as the saying goes, "lie down with dogs, get up with fleas." There's a whole bunch of miserable souls itching to drag others into their pit of despair. They find some twisted sense of power in being "reply guys" because, to be candid, they've got nothing else going for them.
While I can't control the number of nutjobs or keyboard warriors out there, I sure as hell can tailor my social media to suit me. And that's what I'm doing here.
Why should I put up with the intolerable? I don't have to, and neither do you.
Here's a rundown of what'll get you blocked by me:
1. Gotcha Guys/Girls:
Engaging in "gotcha" games on social media is a sign of deep-seated mental issues. Seeking a sense of empowerment through trapping others in perceived contradictions or mistakes is unproductive and reveals more about your insecurities than anything else. This isn't a game, and I'm not a participant in your imaginary battlefield. “Gotcha" behavior is a hallucination of victory, detached from reality. If I wouldn't tolerate this behavior in person, there's no chance I'll entertain it online.
2. One-upmanship/Grandstanding:
Constantly trying to outdo others or hijack conversations to shine the spotlight on yourself is not only annoying but also incredibly transparent. My platforms are a space for sharing insights and benefits, not for your grandstanding. Your needing to prove you're ahead or more knowledgeable doesn't impress “You’re just getting to this now? or “I’ve been doing this for years”; it’s pathetic.
3. Bad Attitude:
Individuals who radiate negativity, anger, and toxicity are not welcome in my digital space. Such behavior stems from self-loathing, substance abuse (tren too), or personal hatred. These individuals seek to project their inner turmoil onto others, finding perverse satisfaction in spreading misery. Their presence is a drain on the positive environment I strive to maintain. Therefore, removing these sources of negativity is not just a preference; it's a necessity for preserving my peace of mind.
4. Loser’s Limp:
Expressing a victim mentality, indulging in self-pity, or constantly narrating why things can't be done are attitudes I have zero tolerance for. Life is about finding solutions, not wallowing in problems. If your default mode is to highlight obstacles without any intention of overcoming them, this isn't the guy for you to engage with. No pity parties are allowed here.
5. Correcting/Debating Me:
I recognize the social dynamics at play when strangers offer correction and debate tactics. It's odd and presumptive. My approach to learning and growth is personal and does not require unsolicited guidance from the digital peanut gallery.
I use social media as a tool for connection, teaching, and sharing, not a battleground for debates. Those who use it to seek validation through arguing with strangers are missing the point—and the potential—of these platforms. Debates don’t change minds and often devolve into unproductive squabbles. I’m not gonna validate your existence by entertaining your debates.
6. Argumentative:
An argumentative tone and an inability to communicate without aggression are immediate red flags. Communication should be about understanding and exchange, not confrontation. If you're incapable of discussing without resorting to combative behavior, it's clear you’re a social retard.
7. Grammar Police:
The compulsion to correct grammar or punctuation is another subtle way of trying to assert superiority. It's a distraction from meaningful conversation and a petty attempt to undermine others. While clear communication is important, nitpicking over minor errors contributes nothing of value. Stop jockeying for power. It’s lame.
8. Spamming:
Attempting to leverage my audience or content for your gain without contributing value is unacceptable. Spamming links, constantly promoting your work, or trying to divert attention from genuine discussions to your platforms is disrespectful and opportunistic. It means you’re scum. Earn your audience through your efforts, not by piggybacking on mine.
9. Asking For Sources:
I'm not your research librarian. Demanding for sources when I make a statement of fact is like asking Picasso for a paint-by-numbers guide—it's absurd. You have the entire internet at your disposal; use it. If you're coming at me expecting spoon-fed information or a bibliography for every thought, you're barking up the wrong tree. I share insights and perspectives, not dissertations.
10. Doomers:
A defeatist attitude contributes nothing but negativity to any space. Those who constantly espouse a "doom and gloom" outlook, refusing to see any possibility for improvement or positive action, are not the kind of energy I want around. Life is full of challenges, but succumbing to despair without striving for change is a mindset I cannot support or condone. It’s evil.
11. Unsolicited Advice:
There's a peculiar phenomenon on social media: individuals who can't resist the urge to dish out unsolicited advice to strangers on other people’s platforms. This isn't about altruism or a genuine desire to help; it's a thinly veiled power play, an attempt to "son" others and claim an unearned status of superiority.
Mind you, these people are not happy enough to make content on their platform and display their knowledge there (they usually are not even good at it) they have to come to your platform and give advice for them to feel superior.
Beneath their facade lies a troubling reality: these unsolicited advice dispensers grapple with their mental disorders and sins, projecting their insecurities and seeking validation in the digital realm to distract from their turmoil. Their lives, often a mess in more ways than one, become secondary to the dopamine hit of "helping" someone on the internet. This behavior isn't just ironic; it's pathological.
Go sell crazy someplace else, we’re all stocked up here. BLOCKED!
12. Backhanded Compliments/Funny Man:
Passive-aggressive behavior, especially in the form of backhanded compliments, is a manipulative tactic designed to undermine and assert dominance. It's a form of aggression masked as politeness, and it's transparently hostile. Genuine compliments are welcome; veiled insults in the name of being a “funny guy” are not.
13. Entitlement:
Expecting answers to your questions or attention as if it were owed to you is a delusion. My time and energy are my own to allocate as I see fit. If you're operating under the assumption that you're entitled to my response or that I'm obligated to engage with you, you have mommy/daddy issues. That means you’re a nut job.
Your attitude reflects a deeper misunderstanding of social dynamics and personal boundaries. Get help.
14. Lazy Questions:
The internet offers a wealth of information at your fingertips. Asking me to provide answers to questions you could easily resolve with a quick Google search not only shows a lack of initiative but also a disregard for my time. I'm here to engage in meaningful discussions, not to research for you.
15. Book Writers (TLDR):
Experience has taught me that 100% of individuals who respond with freakishly long comments are disconnected from reality in a low-down bad way. They’re crazy people. Sure, there's a place for in-depth discussion, but bombarding others with verbose monologues in the comments is not it. If you have so much to say, go to a more appropriate medium for your thoughts like Reddit. Or start a blog or YouTube channel. Do whatever. Just take your “tism” somewhere else.
16. Losers:
In my circle, consistent failure, especially without any hint of progress or improvement, is unwelcome. It's natural for everyone to face setbacks—after all, hurdles are part of the human experience. However, the critical difference lies in how one responds to these setbacks. It's not the stumbling that's the issue; it's the refusal to get back up and learn from the fall that marks someone as a loser in my eyes.
Let's be real: if your contributions to conversations are repeatedly about the goals you've set but never achieved—losing weight, launching or fixing a website, getting in shape, traveling the world, writing a book, improving your credit score, being a better parent, or expanding your business—and there's no progress to speak of, then we have a problem. This isn't just about failing; it's about a pattern of non-achievement and the lack of drive to change that trajectory.
What do you expect me to do in such a scenario? Should I sit back and let this whirlpool of underachievement drag me down too? This isn't about harboring negative feelings towards anyone or wishing ill on them. Everyone messes up, and that's human. My stance is about self-preservation. Surrounding myself with individuals who don't strive to overcome their failures poses a risk to my own drive and ambition. It's not about immunity to bad influences—it's about choosing not to expose myself to them in the first place.
So, while I bear no ill will towards anyone struggling, my space is curated for growth, resilience, and progress. It's a place for those who, despite the odds, choose to rise, learn, and evolve.
17. DMing or Emailing Me Nonsense:
Unsolicited messages, be they attempts at humor, sharing gossip, links to what you deem entertaining, random observations, alerts about others speaking ill of me, or airing personal grievances, are simply not welcome. Such actions categorize you as a time-waster. Stop this behavior. It's evident you're squandering your own time, but attempting to pull me into your vortex of inefficiency is a whole other level of retardation. This isn't just unhelpful; it borders on evil, adding unnecessary distractions to the already challenging task of maintaining focus online.
Moreover, assuming a false sense of familiarity if we aren’t friends("Hey, yo bro") or acting as though I'm obligated to respond to you is both presumptuous and improper. My time and boundaries matter. If you decide to DM me, that’s cool (I don’t promise to respond), ensure it's meaningful and beneficial to both parties involved.
Let's keep our interactions purposeful and respectful, steering clear of behavior that serves no one.
18. No Improvement:
Catching my attention is one thing; maintaining it requires evidence of growth and self-improvement. If you're stagnant, consistently showcasing a lack, super slow progress, or unwillingness to better yourself, then you're broadcasting your unwillingness to succeed. I distance myself from those who refuse to evolve.
Weren’t sure what you did to get blocked by me?
Maybe it’s what you didn’t do.
19. Being a 20-something “Coach”:
Youth is not a barrier to achievement, but offering life advice without substantial life experience or notable accomplishments is presumptuous and straight-up retarded. Entrepreneurial endeavors are one thing; positioning yourself as a “coach or mentor” without the requisite DECADES lived, or experience is another. Earn your stripes before you offer to lead others. Come back when you’re in your mid-30s.
20. Dunking on My Friends or Allies:
Loyalty is paramount. If you target those I respect or have formed alliances with, you're directly disrespecting me. Attacks on my friends or allies are attacks on my judgment and values. .
21. Explaining:
If your game plan is to milk me for personalized advice or deep insights, let's get something straight: you're way off base. My posts and share knowledge, insights, but are not open invitations for free-for-all coaching sessions. I've put in the time and effort to create content and programs for those ready to dive deeper and truly commit to their growth within my area of expertise. This isn't a charity. The expectation that I should unpack complex concepts or provide exhaustive explanations on a platform designed for snippets of thought is dumb. I'm not here to handhold through every query that pops into your head. My time is valuable to me, and I don't owe you an in-depth breakdown. Imagine if I stopped to elaborate on every question thrown my way—I'd be swamped, broke, and neglecting what matters: my work, friends, and my family.
22. Accountability Freaks:
The notion that it's your place to hold me—or anyone—accountable online is a gross overestimation of your role in the world. If your focus is on “calling out” or “exposing” perceived flaws or errors in others, it's time to reflect on your motivations and address your shortcomings and secret sins that you’re harboring. Projection is not a form of support.
23. Haters/Trolls:
Ahhhh, the quintessential old-fashioned internet trolls, armed with insults and a penchant for negativity, are the easiest to block. Their presence contributes nothing but toxicity. Engaging with them offers no value and detracts from the positive, constructive environment I aim to cultivate.
24. Instigators:
Trying to start fights for your entertainment is sick. Tagging others to stir the pot so that you can sit there and watch as they fight reveals a deep-seated self-hatred that you need to deal with before it’s too late.
25. Vibe Off:
Sometimes, there's no concrete reason; it's all about my gut feeling. Maybe it's your profile picture, the way you write, or maybe you're just too crass, come off as insincere, or a fed poster. My intuition alone is enough to make that call. It's not me—it's you.
THE END:
Sure, some blocks might feel unfair. And they 100% might be.
Been there, got blocked myself.
Sometimes I deserved it; other times, it was just a clash of personalities.
But I'm not compromising my social media experience for anyone.
I aim to help folks, grow my business, and enjoy the ride.
I get that some true supporters will get blocked as collateral damage.
Maybe you like my work but still find yourself blocked on some platform.
That's a trade-off I'm willing to make to keep my online world beneficial for me, my family, and my clients.